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Asking My Mentor About… Making Time

Exploring Peer-to-Peer Mentoring

This is the fourth installment of Christine and my monthly Peer-to-Peer Mentoring series. On her blog, I answered her question:

What methods do you have in place or have made use of that allow you to obtain objective feedback on your web-design to be sure you’re reaching your target markets? Do you have anybody who specifically markets in your field or perhaps an un-biased colleague who helps ‘test’ your site to be sure that they would ‘buy’? Please share how you research and refine this topic in your work.

My Question to My Mentor:

“You’re a multi-talented lady, and I fancy myself the same. You’re baking a number of very interesting pies at the moment. How do you ensure each pie (i.e., each interest/passion/business/avenue of expression) gets adequate attention? How do you make the time for everything you do and still do your best? I am in a constant struggle with making more time for my writing… and, less imperatively, my cross-stitching, and I want to learn from your ability to manage multiple interests.”

Christine’s Answer:

Creating Yourself

Great question, one I’m constantly re-visiting in my own work! But wait, you didn’t get an intern yet so you can go out joy-riding? Just kidding…

Entrepreneurship is about transformation, flexibility and openness to try new things. Multi-talented business persons are great at creating activities and projects, but sometimes develop a tendency to become over-committed. Despite this, as talented as you are at creating projects, so are you smart enough to create time for your cross-stitching my multi-talented friend!

How Do I Identify & Measure My Return On Invested Time?

This is a no-brainer, but ask yourself how your commitments originated? Was there a paycheck in sight? Did I agree to offer that lecture because it would transform into a great networking opportunity? Asking these questions allow you to measure your return on invested time. Try these self-check in steps every six months to be sure your work is creating a valuable investment. A great way to start framing how you’ll think about this is by developing your own personal meanings of need, time, fulfillment, investment, passion, work etc.

I like to use this little equation to enact the process: need = an activity you intentionally attached meaning to and that has value measured by a return on the invested time.

1. Draw an investment tree. This is kind of cool and a great “natural” way to visualize your return. Along the length of a paper, write all of your endeavors along the bottom side by side. Above each endeavor, start writing as many things that come to mind that represent a return on the time you’ve invested into each one. Now look back- if you didn’t write at least three valuable returns on your invested time, start pulling the weeds and nix those non-returnable activities.

2. Remember, time is money. Not that you always have to measure time in dollars and cents, but if you’re trying to re-arrange your schedule, free-up or create more time for passions and interests such as your beloved cross-stitching, it can’t hurt. If you’re making 100k a year, but working 90 hours a week, you’re working for less than minimum wage. This might persuade you to ditch said activity for another more financially rewarding one.

3. Don’t Re-Invent The Wheel. Ever tried a mind-map? I love them. I find traditional top to bottom lists lame. They don’t allow the brain to understand how several activities feed into one another. Now, let me clarify, I’m not suggesting that you multi-task, I’m suggesting that you let the work you’re doing serve double and triple purposes.

After you’ve created your investment tree, research which activities tend to require more time than others. Look back at your tree to see what similarities these have with other items. Know those to-do lists you’ve created based on last months series (wink)? Compare your to-do lists and circle duplicates. If you’ve kept good notes, you’ll see which tasks you’re doing over and over again that you might only have to do once or twice.

4. Harness your time (& write with more focused creativity). Try developing intended activities and watch how well you begin to naturally allocate your time. You need to exercise and you need to write, right? Pick your writing topic for the day and visualize the topic. Toss the journal or the word processor in a backpack, put on the cross trainers and get your walk on. Want to make those creative neurotransmitters start working double time? Walking at a brisk pace will not only be great for your heart, but the environmental cues along the way will spark a connection to your topic. End your walk and start your writing at your favorite cafe.

Say it With Me… Ommmmmmmmmm

And, remember, live in the clear and present moment. Feeling anxious, feeling overwhelmed, stop doing whatever you’re doing, get up, close your eyes, take a deep breath and say ommmmmmmmm. Remaining focused in the moment allows you to create your very best work. Tomorrow is another day, just waiting for you to fill it with more of your abundant creativity!

How do I really make time for everything? I continue to self-actualize and critically think about how I’m changing and what value my activities hold. The way I spend my time affects my relationship, financial and mental security. Too many commitments, projects, work, hobbies and I go to shit if I don’t sort it out. I’ve learned that it’s always more graceful and fulfilling to politely say no rather than compromise my precious time. Because if there’s one thing I know, life is about creating YOURself. Be true to your own expectations.

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.

Dana Wilde: Septemeber 2011 Innerpreneur Spotlight

Dana Wilde

Dana Wilde
Artist, Creativity Activist and Writer
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I am:

an Artist, Creativity Activist, Writer.

My passion is for:

creativity, emotional intelligence, freedom from lies, and communication skills.

My business helps you:

see, think about, and express yourself using creative communication, symbolic imagery, and emotional intelligence.

My biggest challenge is:

the habit of over-identifying with my intellect, appearance, and personal problems… rather than with the true essence, light, and power of who I am.

I make a difference by:

understanding the personal, cultural, and social barriers to creativity, liberty, and happiness — and bringing that understanding into my writing, conversations, services, and vision.

I have lots of ideas about:

Personal and social transformation. The anti-creativity conspiracy/culture. The importance of being willing to apply critical-thinking skills and choice-making capacities to the assessment, evaluation, and critique of the specific cultures, traditions, values, systems, and people that shaped our own developing brains and hearts as children.

I’ve learned:

there is an incredible amount of remedial inner work to do (for those of us already planet, and already socialized by the old system). Then, there’s an incredible amount of creative culture-redesign and preventative work to do in order to help the world evolve and make life better for future generations!

“An artist is someone who uses bravery, insight, creativity, and boldness to challenge the status quo.” – Seth Godin

If you would you like to be considered for an upcoming “Innerpreneur Spotlight”, email me.

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.

The Expectations of Others


From the moment we are born we are shaped by the expectation of others.

Their assumptions weigh us down. They sit like a backpack, heavy on our shoulder. Sometimes invisible to us.

These ideas about us are not ours, but we can hold onto them as though they are.

Our Energy Mustn’t Be Squandered

We need to be conscious of what people ask of us, and what they reward us for being.

Others lack of approval can condition us and our passion. And in those conditions our art will or will not be made.

Those who celebrate only fractions of us are not our friends. Those who ask us to take on their needs are not our allies. In meeting their demands and repressing our own, we are misplacing our own values.

As I am learning first hand, to grow, we need to celebrate rather than repress our passion. We need to express it regardless of the rewards, expectations or fears. In celebrating it we are rewarded by more passion – the fuel for which our art will be made.

photo credit: Meredith_Farmer

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.

Beyond All the Negativity or Love For My Video!

Business Growth Summit

I’ve learned something about myself. I have performance anxiety.

It cripples me. It makes me freeze.

When it envelopes me, it blocks me from seeing the whole. It’s hard to see out of it. All I can see is through it.

I’ve had it since childhood, but before now, I hadn’t seen it for what it was. Even thought she’s been right beside me for so long.

Here She Goes Again

My negativity, the voice in my head, she is ANXIETY. FEAR. JUDGEMENT. over what I am. Before I thought she was helpful, saving me from my own embarrassment. But now I see that she acts better than me, in an attempt to keep me down. She needs to feel better than all the shit I create.

How fucking rude. I don’t want people like that in my life. Yet she’s here and she can longer be ignored.

So, I’m working on taming my unwelcome house guest. Because if she wants to stay, she’s going to have to play nice, for I’m going to make shit whether her crabby ass likes it or not.

My Latest Performance

This past month, my anxiety and I have been consumed with creating a video presentation for a business growth conference.

Creating the video helped me to finally see and identify my anxiety. It helped me to clearly see the fear that arises when I feel attention on my expression.

It’s Not You, It’s Me

I want, so badly, to not feel that FEAR when I perceive my creation is being judged. I want, so badly, to stop judging myself so harshly.

I want to love what I’m make without judging what YOU (faceless, cruel you in my mind) will think. I want to love my creations as they pour out of me and not let my silly judgements muck with them.

I Made a Scary Video

I made the video presentation for you (okay, it was actually for the Business Growth Summit, but I was thinking of you). To make it, I sat alone (except for Jack, my canine companion) and I talked to you. Making the video was terrifying and I am petrified of my ‘performance’.

My performance, the presentation, will be live this week. And I’m fucking freaked. But I’m not hiding. I’m trying on my new role, seeing my anxiety for what it is and acting proud of my creations despite it.

I had so much fun making the video. I put my heart into it and I’m feeling ready to love and trust my heart more fully now.

I’m trusting you’ll love my heart too.

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.