{"id":5903,"date":"2012-06-26T15:30:07","date_gmt":"2012-06-26T19:30:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/?p=5903"},"modified":"2021-02-04T13:03:17","modified_gmt":"2021-02-04T18:03:17","slug":"i-dont-feel-like-playing-anymore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/2012\/06\/26\/i-dont-feel-like-playing-anymore\/","title":{"rendered":"I Don&#8217;t Feel Like Playing Anymore"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"ttr_start\"><\/div><p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-5911\" title=\"My Game\" src=\"http:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/MyGame.jpg\" alt=\"My Game\" width=\"664\" height=\"248\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/MyGame.jpg 664w, https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/MyGame-300x112.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 664px) 100vw, 664px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>There are a lot of rules to my game. Too many to follow it seems. <strong>There are the rules I&#8217;ve learned from others. And then there are the ones I&#8217;ve wrote myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It can be easier to see the rules and expectations others have imparting on me, but the ones I impart of myself are the most limiting.<\/p>\n<p>Those rules, those self-imposed &#8216;shoulds&#8217;, are what keep me in victim mode, limited and continuing to play my games, even when I don\u2019t want to, nor acknowledge I am.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ve been noticing it in myself, my game playing. I usually start playing when I approach a relationship issue with the notion there are only two solutions or outcomes.<strong> I have to do this OR I need to that.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I make rules for how the problem can be solved. I make rules for something that, in reality, has no rules. I am creating constraints so that I can feel more safe and secure, more in control of something I can not be the master of. No matter what I choose to do, I can not control what You do.<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps before I felt like I was playing my game well, or maybe I didn\u2019t know I was playing at all&#8230; I&#8217;d learned my set of rules so long ago that they seem so natural and true. It didn&#8217;t feel like I had a choice in playing, or how I played. But I do and always have.<\/p>\n<p>When I feel frustrated, I have the power to explore the rules I&#8217;m creating that are leaving me feeling limited, and I have the ability to commit to using my energy to find other choices. I have the choice to check in with myself and truly make sure I want to start play the game I am unwittingly starting.<\/p>\n<p><em>photo credit: StudioTempura<\/em><\/p>\n<div class=\"ttr_end\"><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-5911\" title=\"My Game\" src=\"http:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/MyGame.jpg\" alt=\"My Game\" width=\"664\" height=\"248\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/MyGame.jpg 664w, https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/06\/MyGame-300x112.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 664px) 100vw, 664px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>There are a lot of rules to my game. Too many to follow it seems. <strong>There are the rules I&#8217;ve learned from others. And then there are the ones I&#8217;ve wrote myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It can be easier to see the rules and expectations others have imparting on me, but the ones I impart of myself are the most limiting.<\/p>\n<p>Those rules, those self-imposed &#8216;shoulds&#8217;, are what keep me in victim mode, limited and continuing to play my games, even when I don\u2019t want to, nor acknowledge I am.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[4,6],"tags":[73,70,72,71],"class_list":["post-5903","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-cultural-creativity","category-growing","tag-expectations","tag-games","tag-rules","tag-shoulds"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5903","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5903"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5903\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5903"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5903"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5903"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}