{"id":8724,"date":"2015-07-05T12:00:28","date_gmt":"2015-07-05T16:00:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/?p=8724"},"modified":"2015-07-05T10:14:51","modified_gmt":"2015-07-05T14:14:51","slug":"its-not-what-happens-its-how-you-handle-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/2015\/07\/05\/its-not-what-happens-its-how-you-handle-it\/","title":{"rendered":"It&#8217;s Not What Happens, It&#8217;s How You Handle It"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"ttr_start\"><\/div><p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/06\/Handle.png\" alt=\"Handle\" width=\"640\" height=\"248\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-8729\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/06\/Handle.png 640w, https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/06\/Handle-300x116.png 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Life happens&#8230; Things you can&#8217;t control&#8230; People you can&#8217;t avoid&#8230; Stuff happens just beyond your reach, and it affects you.<\/p>\n<p>I used to think it was my responsibility to control the things that happened in Life. I strived to minimize the bad and to maximize the good. I watched and I stood prepared. I let in only what passed my vigorous tests.<\/p>\n<p>As Life continued, and continued to happen, I began to see the illusion of control I felt I had. Despite my best efforts, I could not manage and shape Life into being exactly as I wanted it to be. I could not make it more convenient for me.<\/p>\n<p>This left me considering, perhaps I&#8217;d been misunderstanding my job. Perhaps, it wasn&#8217;t my job to control Life. Perhaps instead, it was my job to manage how I handled it. Perhaps, it&#8217;s not what&#8217;s happening that matters, but rather how I&#8217;m handling it.<\/p>\n<p>I can&#8217;t stop Life from happening but I can work to know, and trust, I&#8217;m handling Life as best I can. In working on this confidence, I receive clarity around what I am truly responsible to in Life \u2014 to myself and to you. I must handle you and I, and what happens between us, with care. I must handle Life and all it brings (the good, the bad, and the in-between) with respect, and with honesty.<\/p>\n<p>Handling things as best I can, however, does not necessarily mean you will recognize this. You may not see the truth of my actions and you may not mirror this back to me. You may feel I&#8217;m not doing a good enough job handling things. When this is the case, it&#8217;s time again for me to practice my confidence, checking in with my Self and determining if I&#8217;m handling things as best I can, and if so, continuing to. The truth of my actions will reveal itself.<\/p>\n<p>No matter what comes my way, Life only provides me with what I can handle. In doing my best with these circumstances, I free myself from the chaos of Life&#8217;s happenings.<\/p>\n<p><em>photo credit: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/21561428@N03\/4972081403\/\" title=\"photo credit: Ias\" target=\"_blank\">Ias<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<div class=\"ttr_end\"><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Life happens&#8230; Things you can&#8217;t control&#8230; People you can&#8217;t avoid&#8230; Stuff happens just beyond your reach, and it affects you. I used to think it was my responsibility to control the things that happened in Life. I strived to minimize the bad and to maximize the good. I watched and I stood prepared. I let [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":8729,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[495,468,496,493,492,494],"class_list":["post-8724","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cultural-creativity","tag-circumstances","tag-confidence","tag-handle","tag-life","tag-management","tag-people"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8724","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8724"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8724\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8729"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8724"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8724"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.elasticmind.ca\/innerpreneur\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8724"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}