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Improving Your Game
Like any game, if you don’t actively participate in it, you will not be a player.
If you can see money as a game, you can understand the importance of playing with money; of learning to flow with debit and credit.
Like in any game, it’s important to your success as a player to maintain a positive attitude, regardless of where you are in your flow. Whether in debit or credit, your job as a player is to ensure you are always doing your best while in the game.
Finding a Good Mirror
Good mirrors matter. It’s important that I see myself as I truly am. It’s good for my heart and for my growth to have an accurate picture of who I am.
So I’m learning to be a wiser shopper when it comes to mirrors. Just any old reflection of me will no longer do. I’m getting serious about the mirrors I choose to use.
Finding the good mirrors, I’ve learned, is easier when I am clear on what a true reflection of me might look like.
Then I can confidently say “in this mirror I look fatter than I am”. Or “in this mirror I feel like too much of a caretaker”. Or “in this mirror I appear less whole than I actually am”.
Doing the Impossible
It’s so easy to find people who will tell you something is impossible, when truly very little actually is.
Out of fear, we set limitations on ourselves and our lives, we keep ourselves small, and unwittingly we project these limitations onto the world around us.
We need to in order to keep our story of the impossible going. We need to believe that if it’s not possible for us, it’s not possible for you either.
Because My Gut Says So
I can find it pretty easy to question my feelings, especially when they’re contrary to the people around me.
I might decide I’m being illogical, or overly emotional, or perhaps unreasonable. Whatever I choose, I’ll determine the uncomfortable feeling is something I can and should disregard.
I do this despite knowing that I have, like you, sharply honed instincts – deeply imbedded likes, dislikes, talents, and struggles – that are as much a part of me as my limbs.
I Don’t Feel Like Playing Anymore
There are a lot of rules to my game. Too many to follow it seems. There are the rules I’ve learned from others. And then there are the ones I’ve wrote myself.
It can be easier to see the rules and expectations others have imparting on me, but the ones I impart of myself are the most limiting.
Those rules, those self-imposed ‘shoulds’, are what keep me in victim mode, limited and continuing to play my games, even when I don’t want to, nor acknowledge I am.
What I Don’t Want
The subject’s been coming up a lot for me lately.
It seems I am being schooled in the Art of Alchemy. I’m being taught about my ability to transmute that which is undesirable into something worthy.
I am learning to understand the power of what I don’t want.
I don’t want it… and that’s okay
Sometimes I can be too open to the possibilities… Sometimes I can be a bit too eager to accept what’s being given to me.
The Truth is some things aren’t good for me to open to. Some things being offered aren’t meant to expand me. Some things aren’t given to me with the best of intentions.
Asking My Mentor About… Sharing What I Do
Christine Dionese and I are Peer-to-Peer Mentoring each other. Here’s what we’ve been asking each other about lately…
Christine’s Question
“Generally I’m the one handing out relationship advice, but looks like I need a fresh take on this one! I have always had great success working with friends. I’m in the beginning stages of a new project with a friend and I’m already thinking I may need to dissolve the business side of it. I move fast and work fast… and they don’t. I can appreciate every effort a snail makes, but not in this case. How can I continue to move ahead, pursuing the project, but solo? Any advice for tactfully going about this with my friend?”
Read my answer here
My Question:
“You have multiple skills and talents that you bring together to shape your unique service offerings; in the face of this diversity of skills, do you have techniques for clearly articulating each offering (and how they might fit together) to someone who is not familiar with your work? What is your approach when (and if) your offerings are not clearly understood by that person?”
Christine’s Answer:
Great question and one I work toward answering on a regular basis. My main hub christinedionese.com tells my multi-faceted story so I tend to readily refer strangers there all the time… in the about section I start off in the first person by saying, “Everyday I straddle the dimensions of multiple worlds.” Right from the get-go I’m letting folks know that I offer multi-faceted skills and services.
I Want to Believe in Where You Want to Go
I don’t believe in plans. I believe in planning.
I believe in understanding the general shape of something. I believe in knowing where you are and where you want to go.
I believe that measurable goals drive accomplishment. I believe the better you can express your vision and mission with great specificity, the easier it is for you to outline the steps needed to realize it.
I believe that once you’ve determined where you want to go, what comes next can not be determined, and likely won’t be in any plans you’ve made. I believe this truth can free you from the fear of starting and create a trust in your ability to fill in the gaps later.
Love for Style & Success
Style
We’ve all got it. Some just need more support in expressing it.
Your Style lives in how you do things, in what attracts you; it lies in every choice you make each day. Your Style is you doing what you do, uniquely.
And when you can express your Style clearly, it holds something amazingly powerful in attracting what you desire.
Success
If Success is the realization of your personal dreams.