Rise of the Innerpreneur

Competing for a Better Me

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Can competing not help to better me, without needing to create conflict in my inner self and my outer world?

It’s not competition itself that creates conflict in my inner being, but rather the intention behind that competition. Competing because I desire victory, and being a winner at the hands of another being a loser, undoubtedly creates conflict. For I have unconsciously decided that I am not enough, and that I’ll be more if someone else is less. Competition, in this intention, is an act of being better than others, and reducing myself. It’s an ego concept that invariably creates distress.

However, if I see the value in the (competitive) action done for it’s own sake, whether alone (competing with myself) or in the company of others (competing against other competitors), it can bring out the best in everyone. In this instance I am doing my bestand wanting others to do the same. Which is rather empowering and transformational, and conflict-free.

The beauty of competing for my best self is the only person I am “beating” and surpassing is the older me, and I “win” by becoming a better version of me — and helping you to do the same. I don’t know of a more valuable and supportive outcome to create than that, do you?

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Fixed In Place

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My lower mind is the part of my mental construct that demands for me to be a fixed thing. It desires definition and certainty. It desires to pin ME down. Whereas my higher mind understands the freedom I receive from being nobody.

My higher mind sees the value of having no sense of self that is fixed. It has no desire to define ME. When I am free from this burden of desire, I am more wholly me. I am who I AM. Whereas my lower mind needs to attach to certain attributes; fortifying and grounding me — in my expertise, in my knowledgability, and in my desirability. It relishes defining me as a real somebody.

What value does tying myself down hold? Where can I go when I hold myself in place? I know I need not fix myself in place. I know I need not define ME. What I need is to practice letting go of the desire to be desirable. What I need is to accept ignorance is the path to my freedom.

In my desperation to be seen as special, may I find my wisdom and my power to be the nobody I truly am.

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The Missing Pieces (of Poverty)

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We’ve created a culture of leaving people feeling as though they’re missing something. We’ve created a collective belief that, as a community and as an individual, we are not whole, nor okay.

We’ve created a commercial system that grows fat and comfortable on promoting these feelings of lack and fragmentation. We’ve bought the idea that we can consume something or someone that can leave us feeling more whole.

In the midst of our chaos of un-wholeness, we’ve created deep poverty. More than lacking material resources, deep poverty lives in our feelings and thoughts of lack — lack of ability, of confidence, and of agency — and our disbelief that we can make a plan and change our lives. This mindset can affect the materially poor and rich alike, and it’s from this place that we’ve created the material poverty of our world, and our cultural messages of lack.

Business and culture, excitingly, just as they helped shape these problems, are also powerful spaces to transform deep poverty. There is enormous potential within these spaces to create shifts away from these cultural and economic messages of lack and fear. In this moment, there is so much space and need for actions of abundance; we are desperately in need of people and businesses who actively invest in their own inherent wholeness, and ours. These positive entities are our tools for cultural and economic transformation, and their messages of abundance and of truth are integral for us to heal.

I invite you to take a moment now and feel that place inside you that believes in your own un-wholeness. Sense the amazing transformational power that pain contains… Trust that in working to heal your own beliefs of un-wholeness, you have the power to transform your whole world.

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A (Creative) Culture in Motion

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I received this intriguing question recently from a reader; “Do you know where this (Cultural Creative) concept stands today?”

Where do we, the Cultural Creatives, stand today? From what I observe, we, and our ways of being and doing, are growing quietly. More and more of us are learning about “Cultural Creativity” and resonating with it, and feeling inspired to more deeply connect with their values and others who share them.

I notice that “Cultural Creativity” seems to have grown far larger than the words Paul Ray used (in 2000) to describe this growing culture and movement. There are many words, concepts, and ideas to communicate our ways of being and doing. The philosopher, Ken Wilbur, in my mind has done the most to forward the cultural importance of our consciously growing community. He has written, taught and grown extensively the concept of Integral Culture (and Theory) which is another, and more deeply explored, concept identifying the Cultural Creative way of being and doing. There are schools of thought (an Institute) for Integral approaches to such disciplines as Politics and Ecology.

Personally, I had the pleasure of attending an Integral Coaching program a few year back. It was expanding… and interestingly, it was dominated by Canadian Government employees. It seems the government of Canada is embracing Cultural Creativity in their thinking and approaches. I find that truly exciting!

Beyond Wilbur’s work, I see our Creative Culture emerging everywhere I look. New/old, more conscious approaches to things emerge each day. I can see now what CC’s needed to acknowledge and recognize each other (in 2000, when Ray wrote the book) was a authentic means for connecting in a global way, so we could truly feel our weight and presence. We needed the web, and the time-space to learn and understand its ability to empower us. And now, fifteen years later, it’s old enough that we’re beginning to figure out how to truly connect with each other here.

What do you think?

Where do you feel our Cultural Creative movement?

Email me, I’d love to hear from you.

TJSignature

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James Cervelloni: Innerpreneur Spotlight

James Cervelloni

JAMES CERVELLONI

Co-Founder, Partner and Certified Transformational Coach at
Mindopoly Center for Personal and Professional Change in Rochester, NY

Mindopoly Centre for Change @Mindopoly

I am:

a certified Changework professional with over 20 years of experience, specializing in Educational and Transformational Coaching.

My passion is for:

helping people discover who they really are behind the small story they have of themselves, and to find the One Thing they want most in life but rarely, if ever, get to have. I believe that the relentless quest for this One Thing is what drives everything people do, though often unknowingly, and in ways that ironically keep them from having it.

My business helps you:

to discover your Essential Self — what you might call your True Nature — to define the one thing you want most in life, and uncover and eliminate the hidden obstacles that are keeping you from having it. Mindopoly’s unique approach helps you realize the keys to unlocking your untapped potential by teaching you how to transform the way you see yourself and the world in a radically new way.

My biggest challenge is:

finding a larger stage to educate others about the unseen but All-Too-Obvious misperception most people have about the true cause of unhappiness, conflicts and suffering. At Mindopoly Center for Change we call it “The World’s Deadliest Belief.” Essentially, this belief holds as true that “other people, objects and events are the cause of how I think, feel and behave,” and that “I’m responsible for how others think, feel and behave.”

This core belief is the foundation of the social chaos in the world today. It’s responsible for the creation of the bully-victim relationship, the relentless need for control — often through violence — and is responsible for more pain, unhappiness and death in the world than all natural disasters combined.

Another challenge for me is mastering the power of social media and the influence one well-placed message can have. I’m currently working on a project that will help bring my message to a global audience.

I make a difference by:

helping people become aware of some basic truths:

  • You’re far more than who you think you are. Your Essential Okay-ness is independent of other’s opinions of you or circumstances outside of yourself. It isn’t a thing you have to ‘get.’ It’s the essence of your True Identity.
  • We all have life circumstances and challenges, many of which are outside of our control. However, the manner in which we meet these challenges and the meaning we make of them — for good or for bad — is up to each of us.
  • We give meaning to the people and things in our world through our beliefs and judgments. We assign them labels like good or bad and right or wrong based on our real or imagined experience with them. Judgments aren’t real in that they can’t be proven in a science lab as factual. Therefore, they’re not inherent in the natural world of people and things.
  • Each of us lives life according to what we believe to be true about the world and ourselves, even if what we believe to be true — isn’t.
  • Your greatest super power as a human being is your ability to create new empowering beliefs, meanings and judgments — and therefore a new reality. Learning to use this as a practical way of navigating life’s challenges is vital for living a self-empowered life.

I have lots of ideas about:

how The World’s Deadliest Belief is the main cause of conflict and suffering in personal, professional and world community relationships. I’m dedicated to teaching the one thing that you can do to change its influence on how you think, feel and behave. It’s a way to have peace in your world right now, even when the world at large seems insane. I believe that by changing this one perspective, we hold the power to change our world one mind at a time.

How educating kids about The World’s Deadliest Belief can end the rampant problem of bullying in schools today — in fact, bullying in all contexts.

How we need a practical approach to “Living-wise in an Other-wise World.” It’s the basis of Mindopoly’s Cooperative Engagement Model developed by my partner at Mindopoly, Lucia Pinizotti.

I’ve learned:

that the greatest cause of psychological suffering is that we believe our limited story of the world and who we are in it is true. It isn’t.

The proper treatment for unhappiness and many emotional ‘illnesses’ isn’t drugs. The cure is to correct the true cause — which in most cases is to correct erroneous thinking.

People are capable of great positive change and will embrace it willingly when their highest intentions are understood and honored.

In spite of appearances to the contrary, and though at times it may seem insane to try, it’s best to strive to see perfection. Most everything else is a symptom of the World’s Deadliest Belief.

A favourite quote of mine:

What you’re looking for is where you’re looking from. (Mooji)

If you would you like to be considered for an upcoming “Innerpreneur Spotlight”, please feel free to contact me.