by Tara Joyce | Dec 12, 2013 | Cultural Creativity
Do you believe that if you don’t remind people of the fact that you exist, they will forget you?
Do you see yourself, and your work, as forgettable?
I don’t.
I believe in being unforgettable. And I believe you are.
I believe that we are encouraged to feel that we are forgettable for the benefit of some.
For when we feel forgettable, we feel fearful. And that fear drives us to buy, and to seek out people who say they know better than we do. We want to believe they are the antidote for our total forgettableness.
Why do we minimize our value so much that we actually believe we need tricks and incentives, expert opinions, flashing lights and Remember Me’s to get and keep clients?
Being unforgettable is our true business aspiration. ‘Building our list’ is not.
You, and your work, are enough for me to remember you by.
Make the experience be your advertising.
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by Tara Joyce | Nov 13, 2013 | Cultural Creativity
Look around you.
Where, and with whom, are you spending your Energy?
Do you feel like your spending it wisely?
If not, it could literally be the reason why you are having issues with money. For money, too, is an Energy.
Reflecting on your “money situation” does it mirror back important information about how you spend your Energy?
What do your money spending habits reveal about your energy spending habits?
A Fair Exchange.
Is there anywhere that you are “spending” too much “Energy”? If so, this is a to pay attention to.
For your Energy is worth so much more than that.
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by Tara Joyce | Nov 4, 2013 | Pay What It's Worth Pricing
An Exciting Concept
I learned about the concept of Pay What It’s Worth pricing as a result of an email from a reader, Jay Cowan. He recommended I check out the book called Secrets of the Wealthy Mind, as it discussed the concept of Innerpreneurs.
At the time (2009), there was only one book I knew that mentioned and identified Innerpreneurs as a group, and so I was fascinated.
Jay also mentioned that the author, Phillip Dignan, had “an interesting way of selling it”, referring to pricing system he used to sell the book — he let his customers decide what they paid for it.
It was the first time I had ever heard of someone doing such a crazy thing, and I was intrigued.
I read Secrets of the Wealthy Mind in one day, and it blew my mind. Dignan’s perspective on economic theory and pricing systems turned something on in me, and it helped expanded my mind to see that I’d been following a lot of economic rules that I didn’t believe in.
It supported me in seeing there were alternative models for pricing that would honour my values, ensure the integrity of my client relationships, and create greater possibilities for my own wealth creation.
An Exploration of Worth
During my time exploring Pay What It’s Worth pricing it has come to mean:
- Allowing my customers to determine the true value they place on what they have received.
- Not limiting my wealth potential by setting boundaries on the value placed on my service to others.
- Doing my best on behalf of my client, and trusting that my client with do their best on behalf of me.
- Creating business relationships built on integrity and trust.
- Accepting that my clients can value my work more, and less, than I do.
- Challenging faulty economic assumptions. Economic theory is based on the assumption of scarcity – why is that?
- Unmarketing. Not everybody is comfortable with the responsibility of consciously placing a monetary value on the service they are receiving. And they aren’t the right clients for me.
- An opportunity to increase my awareness on how I, and others in my world, give and receive money.
- An exploration of my self-worth, and true earning potential.
photo credit: gfhughes
by Tara Joyce | Oct 22, 2013 | Cultural Creativity
The wants of others used to matter to me.
I thought somehow they were mine to fulfill.
At some point I decided that while my wants didn’t matter too much, other people’s were of paramount importance.
I convinced myself I was being caring, or helpful, or altruistic, or some other adjective that bathed me in a golden light, in giving what they wanted.
I allowed other people’s wants, and the fulfillment of them, to become my concern.
And while I pretended to be okay with it, and even to enjoy it in the name of giving, what I really felt was how people were taking from me. And I from them.
I was being used, and I was using. I was using them to feel loved, valuable, helpful, and they were using me to get what they wanted.
Neither of us was considering what we needed, what was best for either of us, or our relationship.
Does it matter what you want when you don’t know what you need?
I, and they, were confusing our wants for our needs. I thought I needed to be helpful, and they thought they needed help, but we both simply just wanted it.
We both exerted our power, our esteem for our self, on each other, in hopes that we could get our wants fulfilled, avoiding the work of understanding what we actually needed.
We lacked the love to know what we truly needed — and how to get it. So we stayed focused on our feelings of entitlement to get what we wanted from the other.
We see what we want. But we can see so much more when we look into the truth of why we want things.
The needs of me.
It has taken me time and space to accept that it has always been up to me, and no one else, to obtain the things I need.
The wants of others, and myself, are nice to know but they don’t need matter. They aren’t helpful or hurtful — until they are attached to.
There is nothing wrong with having wants — it’s in the feeling of needing to fulfill them, or not, that my freedom, or my restriction, is born.
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by Tara Joyce | Oct 19, 2013 | My Journey | What's On My Mind
I’ve made some changes around here.
After 5+ years, my website, my online home, felt like it didn’t fit me anymore. So I decided to fashion myself a new dress. And I’m excited to share it with you.
I hope you love it, as I do.
I’ve been in heaven over the last two weeks, creating it. It’s be hard to focus on much else.
What I’m most excited about is the new space I’ve created on elastic mind for my writing. It feels so good to have reached a place in my life where I am ready to give it the space I now know it deserves.
So please, come by and check out elastic mind 2.0.. Over the years I’ve been writing to you I’ve come to see myself much clearer, and I hope you’ll find that reflected back at you here.
