Do you know the Greek myth of Icarus? Icarus is the son of Daedalus who dared to fly too near the sun on wings of feathers and wax. His father cautioned him that flying too near the Sun would cause the wax to melt. But Icarus became enthralled with his ability to fly and forgot his father’s warning. The feathers came loose and Icarus plunged to his death in the sea.
As I see it, this myth is a lesson about balance, about finding balance with your ego and with your gifts. It was Icarus’ choice not accept his gift as it was and to see it as enough. Instead, he chose to push it further, to a place where his gift was destroyed, and he destroyed himself in the process.
We all have, and are given, wings to fly on and it is our choice what we do with them. Do we not use them and never take flight? Do we accept them as they are and fly proudly on them to new destinations? Or do we misuse them, flying too high, too close to the Sun, destroying our gift and ourselves in the process?
If you don’t fly—or you try to fly too high like Icarus, the myth teaches you’ll find yourself falling into the depths of emotional despair, drowning in your egoic feelings (as represented by the sea Icarus drowned in).
To make the most of your gifts, you don’t need to make yourself into more than you are, you don’t need to fly higher than you can and burn yourself, but you also don’t need to stay down on earth, denying your own wings to fly. You are enough. Icarus teaches you have power over what you do with your gifts, and to what heights and destinations they take you.
Thank you for your patience and understanding on this journey. As you may know, I wrote this book from 2009 to 2015, as I discovered, explored, and played with the concept of not setting prices. This exploration led me to better understand my perceptions of worth and value, and how I express them in my exchanges and relationships.
I’m very proud to have persevered on my first publishing journey (which is in no way over yet). It has been quite a ride bringing this baby into the world. Copies of the paperback book are currently available only on my website, but soon will be available at major online retailers too. The digital version of the book will also be available for purchase on my website in the coming weeks. I’ll be sure to update you when the digital version is available.
On a related note, in the coming months (nay years?), I will be working to connect with independent book stores and retailers in Canada and globally, in hopes they’ll be interested in carrying Pay What It’s Worth. While I am happy for the book to be found by readers through major book retail channels (such as Amazon), I very much desire for the book to reach people through more grassroots localized retailers. Beyond these avenues being my preferred way to shop, these small, intimate retailers may also be more open to practicing with pay what it’s worth and supporting the book’s ethos. Major retailers, however, insist there be a set price for the book and I need to work within their systems. Change takes time and I’m happy to start where I can.
I’m sharing this as I’d like to ask for your help, should you like to provide it. Would you help me connect this book with a small, independent book retailer in your community?
If you’re open to this, please email me at tj [at] elasticmind [dot] ca. In exchange for your support and leadership, I’ll happily provide you with a complimentary copy of the book, and we can explore from there how I can support you in sharing this book with your local community.
I appreciate your help and support.
Thank you for your time and attention, and for your interest in paying what it’s worth. You are invaluable to me.
P.S., I know I keep saying I won’t be writing in this space anymore but I keep being drawn back to it and I can’t deny it. Let’s just say for now, I am comfortable not-knowing what I am doing with this space. I hope you can also be okay with this not-knowing.
I’ll continue to write there regularly, so please come by. I love sharing my words and world with you.
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I feel as though I’ve grown beyondRise of the Innerpreneurin this past year and half and I’m ready to put a fresh voice on this space. To renew what feels lifeless.
I’ve decided to use this space now to reflect on who I was then. I’m going to revisit my old posts in the order I published them, rewrite them, and see how I’ve changed in my words and feelings since then.
It’ll help me create form from the 450+ posts I’ve written over the last 9-10(?) years into something tangible, something I can form into a cohesive manuscript. Hopefully. And with some perseverance and faith.
Next Saturday, I am due to give birth to my daughter, who is the first child of Daniel and I. While I do not know what is in store for us, but I trust and I can feel this is the greatest adventure we have ever undertaken.
This moment, right now, feels like the space in between the in-breath and the out-breath. It is a very special, tangibly sacred space. I know the future—an exciting, challenging, and love-filled one—stretches out before me and that the past is nothing by a feeling memory. I am deep in trust in my ability to write my future with authority and authenticity.
As I learn to to breathe in a new way in this new space, I will be taking a pause from my writing here, and from my advisory services as well. I’m climbing higher on my personal mountain, amazing myself with my ability to connect with and pursue the things that I most want to achieve and receive, and thus the things that most scare me. As I face my greatest fears and desires (they are two sides of the same coin), I can see how I’ve held myself back and how the future is as expansive as I choose to make it. It is ripe for my co-creation.
One big way I’ve hindered my expansion is by not creating a strong way for me to easily share with the people who care about all that I do and am. I have been afraid to allow us to truly keep in touch with each other. It’s not easy for me to share myself, it’s not easy for me to feel it’s safe. Often, I try and limit contact to compensate. And so I’ve never seriously created a way for us to keep in touch… for me to let you know what I’m up to—and for you to share what your creating and growing in your world.
Using Typeform, a tool for creating beautiful and humanity-filled lead generation forms I feature on my Resources page, I’ve built a sign-up form for us to stay connected with. Please fill it out if you feel motivated to do so. If you do, I’ll be sure to keep you updated by email on all that’s growing in my world.
So for now, I bid you adieu. I’ll be back writing here when the time is right. As I pause here and get comfortable in my new adventure, I encourage you to take a Strange Adventure with me. Please enjoy my fiction story, Cross My Heart. A new installment comes out every Friday into November.
I love and appreciate you dearly. Thank you so much for reading and for caring about my journey.