by Tara Joyce | Mar 21, 2013 | Innerpreneurship
Does it make me less professional or less able if I don’t have THE answers?
Is it so bad to “not know”?
I know experts want to be seen as right — but I just want to see everything.
I’m curious.
I want to think beyond the answers spoon fed to me by others.
I want to think beyond their attempts to assert their “knowing.”
I want to see that there is never the right answer, only the answer that works best for me.
By “not knowing” I get to live in questioning.
In questioning I get to dig deep and uncover how and why I limit myself with “must be done’s”.
In my “not knowing” I get to move past my assertions of “THE answer” and move towards finding my true solutions.
by Tara Joyce | Mar 8, 2013 | Innerpreneurship
I’ve been told those who “know” things are experts, and that they can help me make the right choices. I’ve been taught that when I have a problem, an expert will have my solution. And I’ve been led to believe that, by asserting my own “knowing,” I can create evidence of my own professionalism and abilities – and be an expert too.
To not know and to admit it, to be open and asking questions can feel wrong in the world of expertise. It can feel shameful to “not know”, and it can feel safer to appear certain of things — even when I am not. “Knowing” can feel like more of an accomplishment, and proof of my abilities, than being honest about my lack of knowing.
I know others build their careers around this false belief, that by living as an expert, they will truly know what’s best. But I can’t help but wonder, where’s the room for curiosity and wonder in that perspective? Where’s the room for living the questions?
I’m thinking the only thing I really need to “know”, as an expert or as an amateur, is that I can’t possibly have the answers until I lived the questions. It’s in the questions that the answers can be found.
photo credit: Macarena C.
