by Tara Joyce | Feb 23, 2017 | My Journey | What's On My Mind
I can’t take ownership of these feelings, these thoughts.
These issues are not mine to hold.
I am without scars; flawless. Undesirable qualities, I have not.
It is You that is angry. Jealous. Insecure. It is You that is to blame.
It is You that has these faulty thoughts, incorrect feelings.
You are the source of what I do not like.
About myself.
You are my projection.
It is You that I can blame for these uncomfortable feelings. For my distress.
It is on You that I can dump and disown what I do not want to see.
About myself.
Disowning myself and disrespecting my truth makes it easier to disrespect Yours.
My thoughts, motivations, desires, and feelings do not matter, so why should Yours?
photo credit: Gabe Austin
by Tara Joyce | Feb 6, 2017 | Cultural Creativity
No matter what you do or don’t do, I always have a choice in how I communicate with you. You can’t make me do or feel anything.
If I choose to not consciously communicate, I am choosing to give away my power. Whether I am attempting to feel small or big in front of you, my unconscious words are reducing me to less than I am.
If you can stay steady in you, I can’t claim your power. Despite my anger-filled desire, my words can’t possibly do this. Nothing external can.
Only you can allow something external to reduce or deflate you. Even my careless words.
If I am not being anything but respectful and loving towards you, know it’s not about you, it’s about me. It just happens to appear to be directed at you.
It’s an optical illusion I like to perform. It helps the weight of my responsibility to magically disappear for a moment and appear on you.
photo credit: Chris Devers
by Tara Joyce | Sep 29, 2016 | Self/Business Growth
It all depends on how long you keep telling yourself the story that is feeding your anger. Your emotional reaction, your anger, it is a result of your conditioning. By nature, it only lasts a few moments. But if you feed the reaction, through your thoughts, it keeps going. And growing.
What was once an momentary emotion grows into something bigger. A story begins to build. An emotion can become a mood. The mood becomes a temperament. The temperament transforms your personality. Your day/year/life is now “ruined” not because of X occurrence, but because of what you are still telling yourself about X.
It’s the story that’s hurting you.
Oh yes, the emotion may be painful, but if you can experience it fully, in the moment as children do allowing it to pass without a story and without attachment, you can have your experience and be over it in a matter of moments. You can be over it not because you got what you wanted and not because it wasn’t painful, but because you know how to experience your emotions and discipline your thoughts. You know their importance and their place in your life.
While not a simple thing, not needing to create a story to spur your emotions on leaves you free to fully feel them and to thoughtfully express them. Finding yourself unattached to your emotional reactions and the stories they may arise, you allow them to pass, rightfully returning to your default state: happiness. Authentic happiness, which likely isn’t the storybook kind.
photo credit: Robyn Budlender
