by Tara Joyce | May 22, 2015 | Self/Business Growth
Is there a way to know how to do something without first doing it?
Can I know how to play the piano without first playing it?
Can I possibly, truly know how to do anything without having done it first?
I need practice. I need to learn how to do the thing I desire. I need to do it, to know it. I need to make mistakes.
I don’t know how. I’ve never done this before. I have to practice, and I have to allow for the mistakes I’ll make while I learn. It feels fair to provide myself understanding of this.
Sometimes, my mistakes are more valuable than my triumphs. Sometimes, my mistakes teach me, and grow me, in ways far more transformative.
I need both the highs and the lows for my confidence to grow. The pain and the pleasure are necessary teachers to know how.
I can’t wholly know how without experiencing both. I need their practice. I need to know I can handle both in order to confidently know I can do.
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by Tara Joyce | Apr 1, 2013 | Cultural Creativity
In Peter Senge’s book The Fifth Discipline, he writes,
“The gap between vision and current reality is a source of energy. If there were no gap, there would be no need for any action to move towards the vision. We call this gap creative tension.”
It seems to me that when we allow ourselves to be in the gap between our dreams and our reality — to live in our own creative tension — we find our self most ripe with the solutions we need.
In this space we are living our questions, and the tense energy we create from “not knowing” activates our curiosity. This gap in “knowing” frees us to be the beginners we are.
If we can learn to enjoy the tension “not knowing”, and avoid those who “know” without questioning, I believe we can create our greatest possibility to discover our answers and close our gap between what is and what could be.
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by Tara Joyce | Mar 21, 2013 | Innerpreneurship
Does it make me less professional or less able if I don’t have THE answers?
Is it so bad to “not know”?
I know experts want to be seen as right — but I just want to see everything.
I’m curious.
I want to think beyond the answers spoon fed to me by others.
I want to think beyond their attempts to assert their “knowing.”
I want to see that there is never the right answer, only the answer that works best for me.
By “not knowing” I get to live in questioning.
In questioning I get to dig deep and uncover how and why I limit myself with “must be done’s”.
In my “not knowing” I get to move past my assertions of “THE answer” and move towards finding my true solutions.
