by Tara Joyce | Nov 21, 2014 | Cultural Creativity
Helpful creative feedback is encouraging, sensitive, honest, and constructive.
Creating is an arduous process that employs your very heart and soul. It is an act that leaves you, the creator, totally vulnerable to those who experience your creation. Helpful creative feedback comes from honouring this sacred creative space and meeting you, the creator, in it.
Helpful creative feedback is sensitive to the fact that you are doing your best, that your creation is not perfect nor is intended to be, and that what you truly desire is the opportunity to grow, express, and improve.
Helpful creative feedback is not about what I would do if I were you, or about what I want your expression to say or represent. Helpful creative feedback is about helping your creation to grow.
That doesn’t mean my creative feedback can’t share my negative experiences of your creation, but if your expression should anger me, it’s my responsibility to understand why it does, before I attempt to share those feelings with you, the creator, or direct them at your creation. When I do decide to share my feedback, positive and/or negative, it becomes helpful when I share it constructively, communicating in a way I would want to be spoken to should I have chosen to put the time, energy, and love into something enough to birth it into this world. Helpful creative feedback requires empathy for the creator and for the creation.
The amount of help my creative feedback provides to you depends on the depth of understanding I have about my own experience, and about how it’s not THE TRUTH. My experience is simply my perspective, nothing more. It’s just one perspective for you and your creation to learn and grow from. It holds no more weight than that. With this knowledge and humility in hand, I can be truly helpful to you, and provide you with the sensitive, honest, and constructive feedback you really need to grow.
photo credit: Josh Ardle
by Tara Joyce | Nov 11, 2014 | Cultural Creativity
If the pain is going to be there either way, why would I choose to feel it?
If I feel it, I can actually heal it. If I don’t feel it, I can not know its true state, and I can not start to heal it.
Whether I like it or not, feeling my pain fully is necessary for my healing, for my whole-ing.
I can not reduce my pain when I don’t acknowledge it. I can not feel more whole and healed when I deny parts of my experience.
When I want to hide from my pain, I remember that in facing it, I start to heal it. Stuffing it down only guarantees I will hold onto these feelings longer.
My pain is inevitable but my suffering is optional.
So I practice feeling it and not fearing it. I practice believing I can face and handle my pain. And ever single time I do, I find I’m right.
photo credit: Lein C. Lau
by Tara Joyce | Nov 5, 2014 | Cultural Creativity, Self/Business Growth
It’s right. It’s wrong.
It’s neither.
It’s just an option. It’s just one way of doing things. It simply one way to approach something.
Take it and/or leave it.
It may be what I’ve done, and it may be what I’m doing, and it may be working for me, but it is still only one way of doing things.
Nothing more.
Take it and/or leave it. Be interested and/or think it’s bunk.
In the end, it’s simply what works for me, for now.
Nothing more.
The approach I am choosing is no more right or wrong than any other approach.
Take it and/or leave it.
Maybe my approach will work for you. Maybe it won’t. I can’t say for sure.
You know what’s best for you.
Take it and/or leave it. Be interested and/or think it’s bunk.
I am here, sharing my perspective on my experiences. And you are there, deciding what to do with them. You decide how much truth my perspective holds for you. You decide how much you’re learning.
It’s not about right or wrong. There’s no place for that here. In this space, it’s about possibility.
What’s possible for you?
photo credit: Dan Foy
