4 posts from month 06/2016

The Moments of Regret

Regret is a painful thing. We see it through the lens of things undone, unsaid, unbeen. We feel it for those moments where our head overran our heart. We embrace it when we act from fear rather than love. All these moments we regret. It is never the moments from love, but the ones acted on—or not—out of fear; these are the moments we miss(understand). Our mind wants to protect us, but from what? What is it our mind first causes us to fear—then ask us to protect against? Sadly, it ...

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The Cost of Being Agreeable

We learn to articulate our personal power by saying no. Feeling my desire to be agreeable, and my fear of rejection, I say no anyway. I learn to be more me. There is wonder in the myriad of consequences created by responding negatively to requests. There is magic in how life moves forward, without interruption. "No" proves to be less important than we think it is. Our agreeableness is not that valuable. Assertive and at ease, when I can say no with freedom, I can say yes with ...

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“Better” Than You

It's an endless quest to be good enough in another person's eyes. Not facing our own thoughts and feelings, we measure our self using the eyes of another. Unable to acknowledge it's really our own perception of self that we use as the measure—not theirs. It takes practice to feel good and whole as we are. Sometimes, rather than doing this, we buy clothes and things, chase and stockpile money, and do what we can to be "better" than others. In comparison, we find our worth. Rather ...

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Performing

So good at the act that you forget what's true. So good at pretending that the unreal becomes real. What you feel is under your control. You can simply act it away. A mask of neutrality. Leads you to believe you might actually feel it. You can ignore your feelings. You can act forever. Yet at some point, the inevitable curtain comes down, and the performance ends. You are left with you; and the feelings you're pretending aren't there. If only for a moment. ...

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