9 posts tagged communication

Criticize, Condemn, and Complain

No matter what you do or don't do, I always have a choice in how I communicate with you. You can't make me do or feel anything. If I choose to not consciously communicate, I am choosing to give away my power. Whether I am attempting to feel small or big in front of you, my unconscious words are reducing me to less than I am. If you can stay steady in you, I can't claim your power. Despite my anger-filled desire, my words can't possibly do this. Nothing external can. Only you can ...

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The Cost of Being Agreeable

We learn to articulate our personal power by saying no. Feeling my desire to be agreeable, and my fear of rejection, I say no anyway. I learn to be more me. There is wonder in the myriad of consequences created by responding negatively to requests. There is magic in how life moves forward, without interruption. "No" proves to be less important than we think it is. Our agreeableness is not that valuable. Assertive and at ease, when I can say no with freedom, I can say yes with ...

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There’s a Time and a Place for Everything

There is a time and a place for everything, and this includes how you present yourself. For knowing how to behave properly in a variety of situations and doing so, rather than limiting you, gives you a choice in the presentation you create. When you know your audience and manage your behaviours with them, you're able to choose how best to get your message across in order for it to have the greatest impact. Knowing how to best present yourself connects you with your right people. For ...

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What’s the Point of This Communication?

There's always a goal. In every communication, in every expression, there is always a goal. It may not be conscious and it may not be visible, but it is there. Whenever we communicate, we do it for a reason. In both our business communication scenarios and our personal ones, our goals design and determine what we achieve, and what we receive. Through our language and logic, our (conscious and unconscious) goals reveal themselves; and through our resulting action, these goals are realiz...

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A Waste of Words

In many ways, our culture encourages the wasting of words. They're presented not as a resource to be responsible to, but rather something to use carelessly, without consequence. Another resource we can throw around and away. Hidden behind our screens, provided with a medium to share our every fleeting thought and feeling, we're finding this story even easier to believe. Please don't waste your words. They are one of your most valuable resources; and they are one of the few resources you ...

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