8 posts tagged imperfection

Skimming the Surface

To see only yourself in every reflection, and only the parts you want to see, a life is lived in the shallow end. Where there is deepness and darkness, you do not probe, unwilling to go deeper. Uncomfortable with its truth, you reject and dismiss that which you care not to understand. To be shallow is to only see—and believe in—the surface facade of others, and of yourself. This shiny surface is so alluring when the darker, less "perfect" aspects of yourself are unacceptable. You ...

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“Better” Than You

It's an endless quest to be good enough in another person's eyes. Not facing our own thoughts and feelings, we measure our self using the eyes of another. Unable to acknowledge it's really our own perception of self that we use as the measure—not theirs. It takes practice to feel good and whole as we are. Sometimes, rather than doing this, we buy clothes and things, chase and stockpile money, and do what we can to be "better" than others. In comparison, we find our worth. Rather ...

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See How You’ve Grown

It needs to be good. No. It needs to be great. If it isn't, it's not worth anything. My sentiment is, of course, not true. Despite how I may feel, the worth of it, of anything, lies not in its goodness (or lack thereof) but in what is being expressed and shared through it. After all, "goodness" and "greatness" aren't real measures of anything. You may feel it's good, while I may feel it's not. Who's right? We both are. So who really cares what's good? Why let your fear of not being ...

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Reaching for Perfection

Many of us dream of reaching perfection, not realizing the cost of it. Many of us dream of the day we can banish our imperfections from our lives. Perhaps, you too feel you'd be happier without your imperfections. I'm certainly not here to disagree. There's nothing wrong with wanting to improve your Self. But there is a difference between transforming your imperfections, and removing them. Transforming them allows you the ability to choose to see your imperfections in a different ...

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Systems Thinking My Way to Freedom

In order to write Pay What It's Worth, my first book of what I hope is many books, I needed to trick myself into not being so scared. I didn't believe I could do it. I didn't trust that I had what it took to fulfill a dream I'd held for so long. I couldn't see how I could clearly share everything that was within me. As time passed and I continued to struggle with inaction, I decided that a re-framing was in order. I needed to see my newly forming book not as a static unchanging express...

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