The Cost of Being Agreeable

We learn to articulate our personal power by saying no. Feeling my desire to be agreeable, and my fear of rejection, I say no anyway. I learn to be more me. There is wonder in the myriad of consequences created by responding negatively to requests. There is magic in...

“Better” Than You

It’s an endless quest to be good enough in another person’s eyes. Not facing our own thoughts and feelings, we measure our self using the eyes of another. Unable to acknowledge it’s really our own perception of self that we use as the measure—not...

Performing

So good at the act that you forget what’s true. So good at pretending that the unreal becomes real. What you feel is under your control. You can simply act it away. A mask of neutrality. Leads you to believe you might actually feel it. You can ignore your...

Emotional Littering

Emotional littering is when I attempt to alleviate my own overwhelming emotions by disposing of them elsewhere, when I inherently know they’re mine to be responsible to. In those moments, I don’t want to own what I’m feeling and how I’m...

Defining Boundaries

A plant needs space, and a seed, as its container to grow. The seed is a boundary from which the plant grows, as is the space that it takes root and grows in. To ensure our plants—the ones we choose to nurture and grow—have the space they need to grow free from...