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E. Steve Kim: August 2010 Innerpreneur Spotlight

E. Steve Kim

E. Steve Kim
Management Consultant
ESKim Enterprise Consulting
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I am:

a business/management consultant focused on business development.

My passion is for:

studying the front-end systems that make organizations and industries operate and connect with each other and their customers while figuring out innovative new ways to generate new business – whether through new accounts, alternate sales & marketing methods, better customer relationship models, strategic partnerships, etc.

My business helps you:

look at your current front-end systems and figure out ways to increase business, revenues, and market share.

My biggest challenge is:

to connect with and convince prospects about my ideas and vision for the future of their industry. I believe I’m purposed to work with the banking industry, in particular to restructure and reposition that industry to new ways of serving their constituents, but I’m still missing something that fills the gap between the old-school systems & thinking and the innovative ideas & models I believe I’m supposed to teach them.

I make things different each day by:

asserting my beliefs/ideas when appropriate.

I have lots of ideas about:

hmm… can’t quite think of anything right now. ☺

My advice is:

always work toward balancing & completing yourself – creativity is beautiful but you can’t manifest something concrete without direction, action, and perseverance; analysis provides keen insight but you can’t apply it to serve the greater good without collaboration, relationships, and flexibility.

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”– Lao-Tzu

If you would you like to be considered for an upcoming “Innerpreneur Spotlight”, email me.

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.

It’s a Tactic, Not a Guarantee

Tactics

Tactic = an action or strategy carefully planned to achieve a specific end

Your business name, your tagline, your website, your brochure, your FaceBook fan page, or any other business tool – they are tactics – that you employ to reach a goal.

Tactics don’t make a business successful

No tactic, no matter how clever or cool, will keep a client coming back. The value your business creates will.

You, the person behind the business – you, the person creating and providing the product and/or service – are ultimately what will make your business grow or shrink, and make your clients true fans.

No enduring business I know of can thank their tagline, or their business name, or any of their ever-changing and evolving tactics for their sustained success. They may thank tactics for having helped garner them attention, but they see their sustained success is due to the value their business creates in the world.

Smart people helping doesn’t hurt

You can hire awesomely smart people to work with you on your business tactics, and invariably you will grow because of them, but they do not have the answers to make your dreams a reality. They can’t guarantee that. No one can. But they can help you to shape your tactic into something great. To a point.

They can help you to create the most beautiful and functional website but it’ll be up to you to make it come alive and fill it with value. They can design you the most visually stunning and clever logo but it’ll be up to you to share and connect it to the people who can benefit from it’s message.

Your business success, the reaching of your goals, it’s always up to you. Tactics can help you to get there but they can’t guarantee arrival.

photo credit: HamburgerJung

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.

Discovering a Sense of Boundaries

My Boundaries

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Artificial acceptance of people and circumstances we resent

Why do we pretend? Why do we stay in situations that hurt us?

It’s not that we’re being nice. It’s not that we care.

We tell ourselves we’re needed and necessary. We inflate our importance.

We feed our ego.

Because we ‘care’

Because I ‘cared’ I used to happily let myself be a food source for others. I saw it as the thing I was good at. My fulfillment came from letting others dine freely on my time, talent and energy. They fed on my energy and my ego fed on their attention.

Except, I wasn’t being accountable to myself. I was abusing my energy, and letting others do the same. I was wasting it being ‘on call’ to others, instead of investing it in my art or my Self.

I put little value on my energy and, as a result, others did as well. I felt tired, used and angry.

It’s not your weight to carry

People don’t mean us harm, but they do harm us when they ask for more than we are willing to give.

Being willing to shoulder the responsibility of other people’s downfalls doesn’t make us a caring person. It makes us a tired and depleted person.

Meeting the expectations of others, we misplace our own values, and inevitably, it weighs heavily on us.

A return on investment

I’m discovering that I need to see my energy not as something I should be giving to others, but as a commodity that I must expect a fair return on. It’s my only way to a sustainable life and career.

As with investing, I have a right to expect and receive a fair return on my investments in energy – both personally and professionally. It’s a give and take, an exchange. Loving a person is not enough to make an investment. Determining it’s a self-loving relationship is.

Continuing to invest in draining relationships is just bad business. It robs me of the power to effectively invest elsewhere, or in myself.

Discovering a sustainable life

I need to be clear about what my priorities are. I teach others my boundaries, what they can expect from me, by acting on them myself. If I’m not clear on ME, no one else will be.

I want a sustainable life and career so I’m finding the courage to evict what does not serve the goal of excellence. I’m thinking about me first and creating boundaries for the people, circumstances and behaviors that do not serve me.

photo by: Thesilein

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.

Permission to Be What I Am

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Can you provide it for me?

Unfortunately, I’ve agreed that in order for me to be something, I need external validation to be so.

Things aren’t real and true because I feel them. They’re true when something bigger than me validates them.

They’re true when some else agrees.

Like you.

Will ‘credentials’ make me confident being what I am?

It’s easier to feel confident about what you’re doing when you have them.

An MBA will give me permission to have confidence as an entrepreneur.
A formal art education will allow me to paint and create without guilt, and scorn.
A literary agent will make me feel like a real writer.

I know I don’t need to rely on outside authority to proclaim I’m good enough to do what I feel.

I  just need to do it. And keep doing it.

Whether you or They like it or not.

I don’t need your ‘Go Ahead’.

Though I understand why I want it.

I need help sometimes. I need someone to tell me what the right thing to do is.

Except the only person who truly knows what I need to do is me. And I know that now.

I don’t need your permission.

It’s support and encouragement for those things most tender within me that I need.

I need space to be what I am. I need to feel that you respect my passion and my choices.

photo credit: Funkyah

Have you heard of the Personal MBA? This article was inspired in part by it’s Rule #1: You Don’t Need Permission. Thank you, Bill Boulton, for the reference.

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.

Ma and God by Shel Silverstein

God gave us fingers–Ma says, “Use your fork.”
God gave us voices–Ma says, “Don’t scream.”
Ma says eat broccoli, cereal and carrots.
But God gave us tasteys for maple ice cream.

God gave us fingers–Ma says, “Use your hanky.”
God gave us puddles–Ma says, “Don’t splash.”
Ma says, “Be quiet, your father is sleeping.”
But God gave us garbage can covers to crash.

God gave us fingers–Ma says, “Put your gloves on.”
God gave us raindrops–Ma says, “Don’t get wet.”
Ma says be careful, and don’t get too near to
Those strange lovely dogs that God gave us to pet.

God gave us fingers–Ma says, “Go wash ’em.”
But God gave us coal bins and nice dirty bodies.
And I ain’t too smart, but there’s one thing for certain–
Either Ma’s wrong or else God is.

Shel Silverstein is my favourite poet. I’ve read Where the Sidewalk Ends a million times over. This poem is from it. He doesn’t think we need permission either.

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.