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Doing Serious Things Badly

Seriously Bad

THIS IS SERIOUS, my ego screams.

She wants my work to be great. For her, it isn’t enough to create, it’s only worth while if I create something great. For her, it isn’t about quantity, only quality.

She is not content with letting me practice and discover my process. She wants serious results, and she wants them now.

She, my ego, has begun her screaming, and quickly my previously delightful project becomes a source of anxiety. Doubt has set up shop and I find I’m no longer working for the sake of it. I’m no longer happy just being on the field, suddenly I need to run the fastest and the best.

I’m comparing myself to imaginary others and instead of creating, I have now shifted into competing.

Getting bad at being serious

When my ego gets mouthy I am learning to stop giving her my energy. I’m learning that playing with her, whether in tearing myself down, or pumping myself up, is not to my benefit. The solution for me isn’t found in trying to outsmart my ego. My solution is found in stepping out of my ego’s game completely and accepting that I just might suck.

In being open to doing things badly, I am ground myself and slowly find my humility and joy once again.

photo credit: Paul B.

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.

Asking My Mentor About… Sharing What I Do

Exploring Peer-to-Peer Mentoring

Christine Dionese and I are Peer-to-Peer Mentoring each other. Here’s what we’ve been asking each other about lately…

Christine’s Question

“Generally I’m the one handing out relationship advice, but looks like I need a fresh take on this one! I have always had great success working with friends. I’m in the beginning stages of a new project with a friend and I’m already thinking I may need to dissolve the business side of it. I move fast and work fast… and they don’t. I can appreciate every effort a snail makes, but not in this case. How can I continue to move ahead, pursuing the project, but solo? Any advice for tactfully going about this with my friend?”

Read my answer here

My Question:

“You have multiple skills and talents that you bring together to shape your unique service offerings; in the face of this diversity of skills, do you have techniques for clearly articulating each offering (and how they might fit together) to someone who is not familiar with your work? What is your approach when (and if) your offerings are not clearly understood by that person?”

Christine’s Answer:

Great question and one I work toward answering on a regular basis. My main hub christinedionese.com tells my multi-faceted story so I tend to readily refer strangers there all the time… in the about section I start off in the first person by saying, “Everyday I straddle the dimensions of multiple worlds.” Right from the get-go I’m letting folks know that I offer multi-faceted skills and services. But, what I think you’re asking about is when people inquire face to face. I can answer this question best with personal experiences!

The answer that I offer inquiring minds, while at the core is the same, is shaped depending on my audience at hand! A little linguistic shuffle is my technique I suppose. For example, a few weeks ago I spoke to a psychopharmacology class, so my answer was tailored initially to the western sciences. If I’m in a health care & wellness setting I always pull it together by sharing that at the heart of what I do is offer people a glimpse of what total health can be like. When I’m consulting to socially conscious businesses I let them know I’m helping create tangible tools for modern living. Luckily, having been asked this question countless times, the answers seem to flow!

I think it’s important to ask yourself, what is that I do, provide, create, write, serve, invent, etc. The deeper you get, the better you can self-describe, and when people ask, the more genuine and authentic your descriptions will sound. What resonates about design to an artist will be different than to say a packaging engineer.

There will always be someone who flat out asks, “what does that mean?” or “I don’t quite get it, can you tell me more?” Remember, it’s easier for people to subconsciously bring in information they are already aware of to finish coloring in the lines. Occasionally I’ll pipe out my answer and the reply will be, “so you’re a this” or “so you do that.” I don’t mind using people’s own thoughts to help act as a familiar resonation, but I definitely take the “I don’t get it” folks and turn it into an opportunity to help my new audience build awareness of what I really do.

I’ve had to troubleshoot the question so many times that I tend to have all the answers on-deck by now. Hearing, “I’m an integrative health care specialist” is part of my answer and not everyone gets that or some people have an idea of what that might mean, yet not fully. I take this opportunity to fill in the blanks for them- instead of letting the audience pick the colors, my answer fills in the lines for them.

When you think about it, if my answer was, “I’m in health care” or “I’m a consultant and a writer” that sounds boring and not particularly unique. Those answers tend to leave it at that- my audience isn’t intrigued and doesn’t care about asking more.

The answer fully, “I’m an integrative health care specialist, medical journalist & food writer and involved in socially conscious business development” is the most intriguing answer to people and gets them asking more curious questions. You asked how I might explain these facets fitting together. Following up with, “each of these endeavors is an extension of the other, always helping each one to evolve.” And, hopefully, you will further captivate your audience with a comment like that (I am not patting myself on the back right now, it just works!) to get them asking more!

Anecdotes offer visualizations- I always try to color the story vividly. Explaining how the private practice is multi-faceted and not like others is always helpful. Talking a bit about how my writing and journalism is diverse is an effective tool. Letting people know that the consulting I’m involved in is to raise human awareness on a local and global level always intrigues.

When you’re actually out and about, practice talking about yourself! The more you do, the more genuine will your connections become! And, take that opportunity to hand out your biz card or invite someone to enter into a discussion at your website. A simple, “I would love to continue the conversation, definitely email me your thoughts on this” brings more people to your website. Here they get to absorb you and fully understand what you’ve just talked to them about. And boy, from there, they will visit your blog and be hooked! I know I was!

Authentic, creative, audience-driven, heart-felt, genuine and spontaneous are the ingredients to helping people organically engage with you!

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.

Marney Makridakis: April 2012 Innerpreneur Spotlight

Marney Makridakis

Marney Makridakis
Author of Creating Time & Founding Flower Child of ArtellaLand.com
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I am:

The founding flower child of ArtellaLand.com, creator of the ARTbundance™ approach of self-discovery through creativity, author of Creating Time, and mom to a wise and wildly colorful three-year-old boy.

My passion is for:

Switching on creative light bulbs within people, so that we all may light up the world with our own unique spark.

My business helps you:

Catalyze unawakened inklings and inspirations to come alive and passionately thrive.

The Creative Isles of Artella Land pro-vide a map to your creative dreams. The ARTbundance Certification Training (ACT) offers comprehensive training and turn-key business building materials for using the ARTbundance™ approach in a variety of professional venues, including creativity coaching, leading workshops, public speaking, teaching, and creating online learning environments. And my newly-released book, Creating Time: Using Creativity to Reinvent the Clock and Reclaim Your Life (New World Library, April 2012) uses the ARTbundance approach to introduce readers to a new creative experience of time.

My biggest challenge is:

Fitting my gratitude, love, and sense of aliveness in the one little heart I’ve been given. :-) What a life this is!

I make a difference by:

Introducing unusual creative tools to prompt new shifts in thinking and action, and reshaping old beliefs that limit us from living the lives we were born to live. When we “think about” a problem or issue, it stays cozy and safe in our minds, and this is why we get stuck. When we boldly add the element of creativity to the transformation process, we amazingly dig deeper and quickly unlock new solutions. It’s really magical to witness.

I have lots of ideas about:

Many, many things :-) but these days I’ve focused most of my attention on the human ability to reinvent time, which is the subject of Creating Time.

There is amazing power held by each of us to imagine, create, and completely reshape the way we experience everything…even something as elusive as “time”. For too long we have been servants of time when in fact, time that can and should serve us. The best news is we don’t have to remain shackled to all that. My main intent for the book in fact was to show how we can finally drop all the archaic views and limitations of time that have held us back from fully embracing the wild beautiful truth: time is not a defined line; it is instead a vibrant, completely moldable, layered, multi-faceted work of art that is in your hands to create and design, each and every day.

I’ve learned:

When we are not slaves to time, when we are not chasing it and wishing time was different, we finally set our souls free to live the lives we’re meant to live. We enter into a new realm of possibility, partnering with time to create a life filled with awareness and fullness, instead of an inherent sense of lack, worry and frustration. Believe it or not, time is in your hands, and you can mold, craft, and create your relationship with time to be just about anything you would like it to be. I’m learning more and more that this model – seeing time as a partner to work with, instead of against – can be replicated in most any challenging situation.

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

If you would you like to be considered for an upcoming “Innerpreneur Spotlight”, email me.

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.

Don’t Take My Advice

Good Advice
In business and in life. I can’t possibly know what is best for you more than you do.

You are your own best adviser.

You have all the answers you’ll ever need inside of you. There is no one you will ever meet that you will learn more from than your Self. You may need support in asking the questions that will move you in the direction of your answers, but ultimately, what is right for you is a question only you have the answer to.

Do you trust that the guide inside you knows what’s best?

All the things you don’t know.

I have moments where the idea that I might actually know what’s best seems completely idiotic. After all, what do I know? It definitely seems far more sane to think that someone ‘smarter’ could know better what to do next.

When I find my balance, I remember why, inherently, I trust my inner guide — she helps me to expand my view of business to see that it is so much more than the external world and reacting to it. In aligning with my inner truth I can see that my business is about internally determining what is meaningful for my work and pursuing that single-mindedly — and subsequently observing how that internal drive shapes the external world.

I may not know a lot but I do know what is meaningful for my life.

What you can trust.

In listening to your inner direction you are shaping a business that is an external reflection of your inner wealth.

In practicing the valuing of your feelings you are working on growing your business.

In taking the risk of loving and understanding yourself more, you are creating a situation where you can better act in line with your values, and serve others.

Think with your heart, feel with your head.

Your intuition, it may not be an expert on every subject but when it is valued, it contains more truth than you’ll ever need — or any external guide can ever provide.

photo credit: hellojenuine.

Hello! I’m Tara, a wizard of less obvious things. I love hearing from you, so please feel free to connect with me.

I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination, through sharing it with others, and through your financial support.