The Want of Others
The wants of others used to matter to me. I thought somehow they were mine to fulfill. At some point I decided that while my wants didn't matter too much, other people's were of paramount importance. I convinced myself I was being caring, or helpful, or altruistic, or some other adjective that bathed me in a golden light, in giving what they wanted. I allowed other people's wants, and the fulfillment of them, to become my concern. And while I pretended to be okay with it, and ...
Takers Gonna Take
It's really lovely to know that through giving freely, I can inspire someone to be more giving. Sometimes though, I encounter a person who consciously (or unconsciously) feels free to consistently take more than they give. I need to watch my balance with them. For as much as I love to give, and to encourage it, I don't enjoy feeling used. With this kind of person, I need to check in with my giving self, and be honest about who they are and what they want from me.
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