by Tara Joyce | Aug 21, 2015 | Self/Business Growth
The first step… It’s the most exciting and scary moment. It’s the moment when you become aware of the problem… And it’s the moment when you begin to solve it.
Becoming aware of the problem is the beginning of your solution. Awareness is your first step. In simply recognizing the dirt and muck, you’re growing. There are so many who are not even yet willing to look there and recognize it. You, however, are. In seeing it, you’re already working on rising above it. You’re already taking a huge step.
Your unconditional worth can only be discovered when you take this first step. Self-awareness is necessary if you are to expand fully into the world.
It’s an exciting moment each time you find yourself taking this step (again) for the first time. In seeing the problem, you’re entering into a solution about to unfold. It’s the first step in a thrilling adventure into knowing and loving yourself better.
photo credit: Thomas Leth-Olsen
by Tara Joyce | Jul 19, 2015 | Cultural Creativity, Self/Business Growth
In our Modern culture, we are encouraged to be unbalanced in our doing, in our esteem. We’re taught to believe we have the right, and the entitlement, to do and have whatever we want. Yet we lack the love to know what we truly need, and how to get it. And so we find ourselves exerting our power, our esteem towards our Self, onto others, in hopes that we will get what we want, without having to do the work to know what we need.
When did our wants become so important? Perhaps it was when we, as a collective, fulfilled our most basic survival needs. With our drive to survive less pressing, with our most basic needs met, we’ve gotten a bit lost in our purpose. With our physical needs met, we think we’ve been granted free reign to focus on our wants. The truth is though, we have far more needs to fulfill beyond the physical ones. Our work is not over, in fact, it has only begun.
Each of us has been honoured with this lifetime, this unique culture, where we have the abundance to explore beyond our most basic needs and to fulfill ourselves on a deeper level. The wealth of our times affords us this ability. Collectively, we’ve reached this place of abundance and opportunity together. It seems a waste to simply focus on our wants, when we’re being offered the opportunity to explore the richness of our deeper needs. This abundance is a gift, giving us the ability to reach further and farther. Its purpose is to expand us, and to support us in expanding ourselves. We need to use it consciously. For there is not much value in getting what we want when we don’t know what we need.
photo credit: Thomas Brault
by Tara Joyce | May 22, 2015 | Self/Business Growth
Is there a way to know how to do something without first doing it?
Can I know how to play the piano without first playing it?
Can I possibly, truly know how to do anything without having done it first?
I need practice. I need to learn how to do the thing I desire. I need to do it, to know it. I need to make mistakes.
I don’t know how. I’ve never done this before. I have to practice, and I have to allow for the mistakes I’ll make while I learn. It feels fair to provide myself understanding of this.
Sometimes, my mistakes are more valuable than my triumphs. Sometimes, my mistakes teach me, and grow me, in ways far more transformative.
I need both the highs and the lows for my confidence to grow. The pain and the pleasure are necessary teachers to know how.
I can’t wholly know how without experiencing both. I need their practice. I need to know I can handle both in order to confidently know I can do.
photo credit: woodleywonderworks
by Tara Joyce | Apr 15, 2015 | Self/Business Growth
Do you ever get so addicted to the pain of something that you don’t want to break out of it? Have you ever felt so much pain and so consistently that you start to feel you deserve it — that it’s meant to be there? Have you ever stayed with your pain — not changing it, not empowering yourself?
When we do this, we make ourselves a victim of our pain. It’s selfish in the end. We’re so overwhelmed by our feelings of despair and unfairness that we forget our responsibility… to our self and others. We forget our responsibility to care about people and things outside our pain, including ourselves.
Our pain matters. It has a point. Its value lies in how we acknowledge it, learn from it, and grow from it. It is not something for us to simply accept and live with. We’ve got to have compassion for our Self. We’ve got to push for our joy.
photo credit: LL Twistiti
by Tara Joyce | Apr 2, 2015 | Innerpreneurship, Self/Business Growth
Not more than you are but as much as you are.
Not THE best but YOUR best.
You need to live up to your purpose, and you need to know you have exactly what it takes to do so. Being your best is an inside job. It’s yours to define and to design.
In the quest for more, it’s the desire to be the best that inevitably diminishes you, and your creative energy. For it’s simply not possible to attain. You can never be the best. However, awakening and exploring your desire to be your best is powerful and sustainable fuel for your creative energy. It is what drives you to live your purpose.
To be your best, you need to be as much as you are and nothing more. Always.
photo credit: Morgan Sessions
