Trying to be good enough for Them, I’ve created an image of perfection, that I do not fit.
Not being perfect, I reject myself.
Getting older, I see that perfect is no longer about being good enough for Them — it’s about being good enough for my Self.
Are you dedicated to creating goods and services that you are proud of and can stand behind?
Do you strive for excellence and are unwilling to accept anything less?
Do you think of your work, whatever it is, as your art?
Do you strive to perform at your highest level?
Sure, you might not always act like the master you are. And sure, sometimes your words might betray you. But at the heart of you, do you see your artist?
Sometimes I really suck at communicating… yet I’m also a great communicator. It’s what I do naturally. But sometimes, I’m down right terrible with it.
My coach Teya Sparks reminds me that I need to be willing to be both extremes. That as a human being, it is only natural.
As a perfectionist, it seems insane. How can I make a career around communication and also be a bad communicator? I must be the best communicator ever. always. period.
But I am not. Sometimes I suck.
Like last week, when I wrote about discovering my designer,
Okay, I’ve been hiding from myself.
I’ve been calling myself a coach for a while now – and it does fit, sort of. I mean, it is a part of what I do…
At the core of me, what I am, what I have always been, is a designer. A designer and a writer. Doing those two things brings me the greatest pleasure in this world.
The wonderful people I meet and co-create with, and the way in which we design together (through coaching) is important, but is secondary to my deepest pleasures and god-given talent.
I was hiding my designer behind a coach because…
I thought I sometimes think that my value lies in what I do for others, not in who I am. Being a designer, in my old mind, wasn’t “good enough”, it was too much aesthetics and not enough about strategy and helping others. Even though design, to me, is all of those things and more.
Coaching felt safer. It kind of fit and I felt more confident with the description. It helped me to not deal directly with my denial of my designer.
I often find it very hard to clearly differentiate the various forms of strategic communications that a person, a business and/or a brand can use.
A while back I shared an analogy explaining the differences between marketing, advertising and public relations. Today, I’ve expanded on the analogy with visual comics.
Hi there, I’m Tara Joyce.
Unfulfilled at 26, I decided to start my own business to explore how I could be of service. Quickly, I was attracted to the seemingly backwards strategy of not setting a price and to allowing my customers to determine the value of my offering. Today, my “Pay What It’s Worth” concept supports people globally in exploring their own fear-based ideas around money, value, and business relationships.
