I’ve got this tendency in communication, maybe you have it too… I sometimes take on more responsibility than is rightfully mine.

You see, I am good at communicating. It comes naturally. I like it and because of this, I sometimes take on the job of doing it, even when it’s not mine to have.

Sometimes, I take on the job of valuing your words and expressions when you are not. Sometimes, I choose an unequal exchange.

An equal exchange

But here’s the thing, the truth about empowered communication and empowering myself through communication — sometimes, it’s best if I don’t listen. Sometimes, it’s best if I don’t acknowledge what’s being communicated.

If you’re communicating in a constructive way, then listening and recognizing you is my priority. But, if you’re not holding up your end of the communication bargain and being responsible for your role in the relationship, then your words lose their value. For you are no longer valuing them.

Your carelessness with your communication is not my responsibility.

Shared responsibility

What’s mine is my responsibility towards empowered communication and my need for co-creative communication.

What’s mine are maintaining my boundaries around what is our shared responsibility in our exchange.

valuing my words & expressions = valuing your words & expressions

Both are my job. And both are yours. That’s how we co-create communication together.

photo credit: Stephen – 10on12