5 posts tagged pretense

We Don’t Know What We Are

Our true nature, who we inherently are, is expressed in all that we do. Yet most of us live without an awareness of this truth, and the practice of expressing who we naturally are becomes difficult to realize. Instead, we find our selves striving, pushing, giving up; actions driven by our confusion over who we naturally are. When we express our true nature, we are human beings — we are what we are. When we do not express our nature, we don't know what we are. We are confused. ...

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Skimming the Surface

To see only yourself in every reflection, and only the parts you want to see, a life is lived in the shallow end. Where there is deepness and darkness, you do not probe, unwilling to go deeper. Uncomfortable with its truth, you reject and dismiss that which you care not to understand. To be shallow is to only see—and believe in—the surface facade of others, and of yourself. This shiny surface is so alluring when the darker, less "perfect" aspects of yourself are unacceptable. You ...

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Performing

So good at the act that you forget what's true. So good at pretending that the unreal becomes real. What you feel is under your control. You can simply act it away. A mask of neutrality. Leads you to believe you might actually feel it. You can ignore your feelings. You can act forever. Yet at some point, the inevitable curtain comes down, and the performance ends. You are left with you; and the feelings you're pretending aren't there. If only for a moment. ...

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On Pretense

It is a way of being that prevents connection. It is presenting a false story about myself and my life in order to control others perception of me. It's a form of marketing or more specifically advertising, and it's neither mindful nor empowering. While in my pretense, I'm not valuing my contributions fully nor am I fully valuing the contributions others. I am not being honest about who I am. I am determining certain elements of me are better and more desirable. How does it ...

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One Thing I Think I Know About Personal Branding

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There is no demand for my message.


Personal branding isn't about packaging myself up into a pretty box and showing only the good and glowing. The whole me, not my tidy little message, is what people want and will see, whether I attempt to control it or not. Establishing a message for myself, deciding on a pretense, trying to make you think what I want you to think about me, is not of benefit to me.

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