Reality is What You Make It

Reality is What You Make It

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Despite how we talk about it, reality isn’t one thing. One stream. One truth. Reality is defined and designed by you, the individual. And, by design, you get to decide how “real” you want your reality to be.

You are given the possibility, and the imperative, of being able to bring into reality the things that are truly real, and truly healing for you.

If you decide that your reality is full of lies and half-truths—or even a casual ignoring of the truly real—then this is your reality. Your detachment from your truth is a critical aspect of your reality.

What is real anyway? Perhaps what’s truly real is what feels most like our authentic truth.

This is my desire: for anything other than my truth to be the uncomfortable place. I want to learn to sit comfortably uncomfortable in the beauty and messiness of my truth. I want to feel that anything less than it is a trap I am creating for myself. For I know — and have learned — inevitably, the truth will catch up with me. I can’t outrun it, though I can deny it. Yet no matter where I look, it will still be there.

The denying of our truth adds pressure and pain to our lives. It’s the pressure to re-frame everything; to re-frame our reality so that it painfully fits into the limited perspective we’ve deemed acceptable. It’s a carefully crafted noose that will eventually hang us.

Instead, why not bring into reality the things that are truly real, and truly healing for you? Trust it’s your imperative as its designer.

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The Thing That Means SO MUCH

The Thing That Means SO MUCH

Means so much

A Calling

I’ve always wanted to — and knew I needed to — WRITE a BOOK.

If I knew anything about myself, I KNEW this. And this KNOWING was so powerful that it became incredibly painful.

Resistance

But I didn’t know how, so I tried to escape from IT. The pressure of IT. For a while.

With time and practice, it became not so much the WRITING that weighed, but THE (unwritten) BOOK itself. As did my resistance to ALL THE MEANING I had now placed on IT.

Nothing meant more than creating THE BOOK I always dreamed of, and so under this heavy weight IT sat stagnant.

IT meant too much to move, the fear of not getting IT right or not getting THERE at all hovered. The seriousness of the endeavour weighed. I NEEDED to do this.

Acceptance

Five year ago I started writing THE BOOK I dreamed of creating, and today I am ready to share it with you.

It’s taken lots of work on myself, and spending the last year writing the start of a fiction series, to reach THIS place where I am ready, willing, and able to write and share my BOOK that meant so much.

I can now see and trust that this BOOK that means so much, is one of many inside me. I now know I am able to do IT.

And IT doesn’t mean as much as I made it out to. And yet IT means so much more.

I feel ready now to step fully into who I am. To feel FREE to collect and share my words and thoughts with you. And to KNOW it means something when I do, but this meaning isn’t there to scare me, only motivate.

A Heroic Journey

And so, with no further ado, I am proud to share with you my first book, Pay What It’s Worth: Building Your Sustainable System for Not Setting Prices.

May it take you on an adventure the way it has taken me.