What’s It Got To Do With You?

by | Aug 27, 2009

Tara Joyce

Written by Tara Joyce

Hello! I'm Tara Joyce, author of “Pay What It’s Worth: You Don’t Need to Set a Price on Value,” forthcoming from Integral Publishers. I live in Toronto, Canada with my pioneering and waste-loving husband, my hilariously self-assured toddler daughter, and my troublesome canine son. I deeply appreciate your support of my work—through allowing it to grow in your imagination and through sharing it with others. LEARN MORE


I often find that my choices are met with hostility from others.

The resistance is not a result of my choice affecting or hurting the other person, as the decision often has nothing to do with them… the hostility is more about how the decision makes them feel about their Self.

So what if I’m different from you?

To me, the difference between a person committed to a Cultural Creative, Modern or Traditional lifestyle is the values that they choose to actively pursue as goals. We are all seeking happiness and trying to avoid pain but the means through which we pursue these desires differs.

For me, my happiness comes from valuing my close relationships, enjoying and respecting the environment, being of service to others, expressing and embracing my own unique genius, living holistically… I could go on.

“Do, or do not. There is no try.” – Jedi Master Yoda

Others may also think these values are significant and important as well… but it’s not your intentions that matter, it’s your actions.

Our values are the goals we actively pursue. You may say the environment is important to you but, if you dump that paint can down the sink instead of taking the time to see that it be properly disposed of, your actions are exhibiting your true values, despite what you may tell your Self. Sure, you may value the environment, but you honestly value your time more.

It’s your problem, not mine.

This brings me back to the hostility, the threatened feeling I… and perhaps you, sometimes seem to bring forth in others. What do our actions have to with them? Why does it get their back up? Why do you care that I only buy organic meat? What’s it got to do with you?

I’d say that if you experience feelings of resistance towards the decisions of another, it’s probably a good time to take a look at your Self and the goals you’re actively pursuing. Because it’s not my action you have a problem with, it’s your inaction.

photo by: Pulpolux !!!

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What’s It Got To Do With You?

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