We Don’t Know What We Are

Our true nature, who we inherently are, is expressed in all that we do. Yet most of us live without an awareness of this truth, and the practice of expressing who we naturally are becomes difficult to realize. Instead, we find our selves striving, pushing, giving up; actions driven by our confusion over who we naturally are. When we express our true nature, we are human beings — we are what we are. When we do not express our nature, we don't know what we are. We are confused. ...

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Longer Than Expected

How do I balance my innate human desire to estimate how long something will take, with the reality that I often have little control over this truth? Is the point to do my best in estimating, to get a general sense, and then to leave it? Is the point to do some planning, but to never decide that my expectations are true and correct? Is the point to create motivation to work towards the goal, rather than attaching to its timeline? Perhaps our time estimates are funny games we play with ...

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The Cost of Being Agreeable

We learn to articulate our personal power by saying no. Feeling my desire to be agreeable, and my fear of rejection, I say no anyway. I learn to be more me. There is wonder in the myriad of consequences created by responding negatively to requests. There is magic in how life moves forward, without interruption. "No" proves to be less important than we think it is. Our agreeableness is not that valuable. Assertive and at ease, when I can say no with freedom, I can say yes with ...

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“Better” Than You

It's an endless quest to be good enough in another person's eyes. Not facing our own thoughts and feelings, we measure our self using the eyes of another. Unable to acknowledge it's really our own perception of self that we use as the measure—not theirs. It takes practice to feel good and whole as we are. Sometimes, rather than doing this, we buy clothes and things, chase and stockpile money, and do what we can to be "better" than others. In comparison, we find our worth. Rather ...

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Money, You, and the Work to Be Done

Psychology is to money what an engine is to a car. Your motives — what drives you — determines your experience with it. Increasing the quality of your thoughts, your wealth increases. In valuing yourself more, you naturally exchange this greater sense of worth with the world around you. In building credit with yourself, you build credit in the world. But in order to increase the quality of your thoughts around money, in order to build your credit, you first need to do the ...

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