9 posts tagged pain

The People Who Don’t Get It

We see people and things not as they are, but as we are. How aware we are informs what we see—and how we see it. Ubuntu - I am because you are. People who don't seem to get it are seemingly everywhere. We find them in our families, at work, and in all areas of our public and private lives; and it can be painful and frustrating to watch them behave so unconsciously. Even though we know true separation from them is an illusion, it's not hard to find ourselves feeling intolerant of ...

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Getting to Know Your Garbage

Here's a bit of my garbage... I have a tendency to attach to other people's garbage. I magnetize to the parts of people that they have decided have no value and have thrown away. I can't stand how their not responsible to these parts, and I determine someone needs to be. And now their garbage has become mine. I've attached to it. Except, I have my own garbage to manage. So, why do I think I have room to take on theirs? Being responsible to theirs, I can't fully be responsible ...

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Emotional Self-Abandonment

We, as humans, have a tendency to use our mind to negate our emotions. We use our mind as a tool to abandon how we feel. I know, personally, I often use my mind to abandon my negative feelings, especially when they are directed at someone I love. In these moments, I'd rather pretend the feelings aren't there... than explore why they are. The result of doing this, of locking up my sensitives in my logical mind, is that I disown my feelings and my emotional needs. For some of us, we ...

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Reality is What You Make It

Despite how we talk about it, reality isn't one thing. One stream. One truth. Reality is defined and designed by you, the individual. And, by design, you get to decide how "real" you want your reality to be. You are given the possibility, and the imperative, of being able to bring into reality the things that are truly real, and truly healing for you. If you decide that your reality is full of lies and half-truths—or even a casual ignoring of the truly real—then this is your ...

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Addicted to the Pain

Do you ever get so addicted to the pain of something that you don't want to break out of it? Have you ever felt so much pain and so consistently that you start to feel you deserve it — that it's meant to be there? Have you ever stayed with your pain — not changing it, not empowering yourself? When we do this, we make ourselves a victim of our pain. It's selfish in the end. We're so overwhelmed by our feelings of despair and unfairness that we forget our responsibility... to our self ...

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